Well I've read several comments on this site now from men who have been slighted by women on lavalife and who have beefs about honesty and such and I felt compelled to respond with my own opinions. Just like women who are fake, who don't respond to e-mails, who block etc.,... let me tell you there are men who do the same thing!! Just like women stretch the truth about their weight, men stretch the truth about their height. I can't tell you how many men i've met who put their height as 5'6" and when we walked beside each other into a restaurant, I was taller than he was (I'm 5'2"... 5'3" with normal everyday walking shoes)I'd say at least 6 men now who were shorter than me and lied about it. Similar to women, very very few men actually look like their pictures. And by the way, back to the weight thing with women.... I'm sorry, but 30 extra pounds IS average for North American women, you just haven't noticed because you were too busy looking at all the skinny women and have ignored the average women because of their weight. Just as you say women are golddiggers looking for tall dark and handsome, men only want gorgeous, athletic, and super slim, they don't care about women's brains, achievements or goals in life. Case in point, Just as Major Tom did his little experiment -- which btw, my opinion on that is simply, she wasn't interested in your boring profile, suck it up! -- I have also put a second profile on LL in order to determine a guy's true intentions, and while he was telling me he wasn't interested in dating anyone else but me, he was responding to my fake profile telling her how excited he was about how much they had in common and sending nasty grams when the fake profile didn't continue the interaction, I got what I needed - the truth and deleted it. Ooh.. here's another experience I had, a guy who played me big time, chatted with me for several weeks, set up a date on the phone for the next night at a restaurant and then stood me up! Well about 6 weeks later he messages me again as if he's never ever talked to me before, when I lambasted him for his rudeness and inconsideration, he had the gall to tell me he's never ever talked to me before, even though I told him his hotmail address, his cell phone number, knew all about his work, his home, etc, because he told me all of this, and I even sent him our msn conversations that we had and he still maintains that it wasn't him I was talking to. Yes, everything I knew about him was accurate, but he didn't set up a date with me... what kind of game is that??

So for all the beefs on here from men and their experiences, there are equally as many from women. My opinion of lavalife is that there are a lot of game players, players in general, married people looking for attention, people with low self-esteem looking for attention (both men and women) and there are a lot of people who are just normal looking to meet the right one, unfortunately we have to weed through the idiots and take the good with the bad. In 3 years I've met over 50 men, some just for the sake of meeting, a friday night date etc., some i've met I wished would have become more. Some have wished they could have got more from me. Either way, I still haven't found the one yet, and LL is a great format for making introductions - what you do with those introductions is up to you. But the best advice is just not to stoop to their level and maintain your integrity. When you're not interested in someone, politely tell them thanks for the interest but your looking for something different, there's far too many cowards out there already that give online dating a bad name.

From an "average" person, looking for another "average" person.