eHarmony Sucks! It's new name to me is eHarm-a-me.

I am a 36 year old, intelligent woman. My advice - stick to match, yahoo, etc. I have spent a little over a month on eH and have had it - I'm done. btw, if you hold out on signing up, they will offer you 3 months for $45, but I still do not recommend it!!!

Biggest points: their questionaire is a psychological assessment not a match making tool, and the web application is not friendly to use. Below details what SUCKS about eHarm-a-me.

1) You have no control over the criteria that makes a match after the questionaire is filled out. BTW, this questionaire is the same one that empoyers have been using for years to weed out potential bad employees!!! It is not a matching tool, but a PSYCHOLOGICAL profile. It asks the same question over and over in different ways. It is meant detect serious social and inter-personal behavioral problems, i.e. if you are severly bitter, you will not be able to continue. Well, thank you there... but it is not meant to be used to create companion matches. But it will weed out the psychos : ) Good grief.

2) There are no pictures displayed in the match list. There is just a name displayed, many of which are the same. It is time consuming to click into their profile just to see whose status you are looking at. Also, the basic information given is basically worthless, see 3.

3) The basic information listed is name, location, occupation, hight, age, and ethnicity along with Introductory Information. Nothing personal! The intro info is basically a waste of time to read, strengths, what passionate about, blah, blah, blah - they are canned phrases from eH's assessment. Do NOT expect to learn anything significant about the person, there is no personal message of any kind.

4) You then go through a bunch of back and forth canned correspondence as must-haves and can't-stands. By the time you get to actually open email, you have learned almost nothing but 3 answers to free text messages.

5) The open emailing sucks! You cannot see what a match wrote and what you are writing at the same time, if you click back, you loose your message (need to copy first). Rediculous.

6) So you are finally open emailing in a system that bites the big one. - You still hardly know anything about this person and meanwhile, you have been innundated with a crap-load of new introductions (~2 weeks have probably passed).

7) These new introductions are chosen by the system! You have no control beyond mileage scope and a limited set of items, see 1.

So there you have it. It is a huge waste of time for most people. Please stick to more conventional sites, peruse pictures and personal comments, email at will and enjoy!

Best regards to all and good luck!!! ~Jessica