I am in my fourth month with Eharmony. I did research before joining so I knew the drawbacks of signing up for this '29 dimensions' nonsense. So far I have receive almost 200 matches, 75% of which have shut my profile down. I have gotten to the final stage of communication with three matches, and gotten as far as a second date with one.

I find it judgemental that matches can't even attempt to get past initial communication before they shut down your profile. You have to at least go through the multiple choice and open ended question/answer portion of the communication before you have enough information to close a profile down. Otherwise you are doing yourself a disservice and will NEVER find a mate on this website.

If I based my decision to close down a match solely on their profile I would close 90% of them. Based on the matches I have received, not enough effort is put into completing the profile. I spent time refining and wordsmithing my profile to better market myself to potential matches.

The profile needs to be approached like you do a resume. And if I get one more match that lists Ronald Reagan as their personal hero or that has read The Davinci Code I will scream! And guys, if the only picture you have is you dressed as a pirate, DON'T post it. I know, I know. I complained about passing judgement but come on, I just can't date a pirate.

Eharmony has added a new feature to their website. If a match closes down your profile, you now have the option of sending them a 'Final Message' in response. Eharmony provides 5 standardized messages, none of which really satisfy your instinct to tell the other person what an idiot they are to pass you up! I am not interested in sending a final message to someone who closes my profile. I am not going to beg someone to reconsider.

I have a couple more days before it is too late to cancel my membership. I didn't want to battle all the freaks on match.com but I think I am ready to take my chances.