A common trend with these sites is that they require you to pay before you can see who wrote to you. I can almost understand charging you to reply to someone, hell everyone wants to make money. But no way in hell am I going to pay just so I can see who flirted, winked, or emailed me. A problem I have in particular with American Singles is that there is no way you can see what characteristics someone is looking for. Why waste my time and money emailing someone who is looking for someone who is at least 6'2", when I am only 5'10"? Why waste time emailing someone who is looking for a white guy when I am black? Without having this information invailable, why should I take the chance of spending my money on them?