I have been a member of Lavalife on and off since it used to be WebPersonals back in '98. Not sure it says much about me, but then again, not sure it says much about the system.

At first, it seemed great. Lots of people and chatting and emailing. I have probably met 40 people face-to-face over the years and of those, I have "connected" with four, dated three of those guys for three months each, and had a serious two-year relationship with the fourth (distance and circumstances could not be overcome), so I know that you have to go through a LOT of profiles and a LOT of emailing and first meetings, before you can actually move to the first real date.

However, seems this time around (after been off the system for almost three years) when it comes down to actually following through, I find many guys (sorry I can't speak for the women, only me), can't hack it. I have found on numerous occasions that people don't respond to emails, or when they do, drag out meeting as long as possible, so they can make sure they don't miss something else. I also find a lot of their emails childish -- "you look kissable" comes to mind.

In general I have observed that most of the guys don't seem committed to finding someone, let alone finding someone they want to be committed to. It's like the "kid in the candy store" syndrome. They are so excited by the huge choice, they can't stay focused.

I don't object to people having profiles in all three sections, but what I find funny is that guys will ignore you in one section and are more than willing to chat you up in another (I am sure you can figure out which one). Hey, I like sex too, but what do you do for the other 23 hours a day??? Do people not realize how easy it is to figure out when someone online has a profile in more than one section?

I guess I am just tired of unanswered emails (Hey, take 30 seconds to respond, even if it is to say "no thanks"), guys who are players, who just keep you in their radar until they are bored or find someone else, or guys who feel they are entitled to "thin, petite, supermodels", when they are short, fat and balding.

I just want to meet an honest, sincere, genuine person. But I am so done with Lava. I am a financially secure, intelligent, attractive, sexy, fun-loving, independant 45-year-old who has decided to pack it all in and stay single. Sorry guys, but you all missed out.