I would strongly agree with what Mike in Seattle had to say about Eharmony and about dating very attractive/goodlooking people.

My experience with Eharmony has been very similiar to what he mentioned and negative as well.

A good majority of people on eharmony are looking for a needle in a haystack and are so unrealistic that they close you out immediately. I get closed out a lot because I don't have my picture viewable until after open communication, or for the reason 'other' which is no explanation at all, and other assorted reasons. I think a lot of it comes down to people being too picky/ie they are looking for a needle in a haystack and have set their goals way too high.

Take it from me that dating someone goodlooking who people envy you for is not all that great. I know that from personal experience.

I met someone online who seemed great at first. This online dater was tall, goodlooking, had a good job, their own car and home, and basically seemed like a great catch. My family and friends thought he was wonderful and too goodlooking for me.

But looks are only skin deep and can be very decieving. The more I got to know this online dater the less I liked him. Over time I came to find out that he was wasn't all that great. He turned out to be a liar, as well as a poser and people-pleaser to the extent that he didn't have any original opinions or thoughts of his own, and he turned out to be sadistic and verbally abusive.

I can't emphasize enough that looks are only skin deep. And I for one don't have time to waste on people that believe otherwise. Sure I have a type I look for but I don't close someone out because of that alone. Pictures don't tell that much about a person to me, people are much more than just a few pixels.

And despite what Eharmony says in their advertisting they have psychos, and emotionally unstable/ unhealthy people, as well as players, and married people in their system. Their rigorous screening process doesn't weed these people out.

So, yes, the genuine online dater gets to waste their time and money with Eharmony.

I say save your money and use it elsewhere. Don't waste it on eharmony.

If you have more to say feel free to visit: Without_Eharmony http://groups.yahoo.com/group/without_eharmony/