Well, I would have to say although I have met one or two people in the flesh from Lavalife, the site is a big scam. I have sent "smiles" to many people who within 5 mins respond with a "smile." Once you try to initiate a conversation they drop off the face of the earth. So either there is a lot of people out there who change what they want in a period of about 10 mins, or the site has planted accounts. I guess either can be possible but if you change your mind every 10 mins...that's probably a good indication of why you are on a dating website. LOL Best of luck to all!