I just found this site, and I've been entertained by the reviews. Exactly what I have experienced. I'm specifically responding to the post by L Moser (I think I got that right) about his comment towards the end of his post about how most ladies (especially on the adult personals sites) are expecting big private parts out of guys, or no communication. Yes, there are guys with big you-know-what's out there, but, hey, you know what? They've most likely already got girlfriends, girls. I initiated chat with a woman in my area (she lives fifteen minutes away, in fact) who stated she was looking for a relationship, but the first thing she asked was how big I was. I told her, and I'll tell you. Six inches. Now, I know that's not going to qualify me for any porno movies, but I've known guys, nice guys who have been good friends and deserve happiness like we all do, who are smaller than that. I mean, can you imagine a woman's reaction if a man only wanted to date a woman who had big boobs??? Sexist, dirty pig, she would call him. Scum of the earth, right? But women seem to be able to get away with the same kind of insanity just because they are women. I just don't get it. But I have ceased to try to figure people out. But on to my review of lavalife. I have been a paying member for about a year, and I have yet to meet a single (and I'm using the numerical meaning here) woman. Their "local" search gives you ads from people who are anywhere to a hundred miles away (how is that local???) And, at least in my area, there aren't very many choices to pick from. Well, this has been a long post, longer than I'd intended. I'm just looking for a girlfriend, someone with whom I can connect and form a bond, and I would really like to find someone I can be with for the long term, preferrably my whole life. I don't want to get divorced, but it seems in this society that's innevotable. I'm trying the dating sites, but with limited money and being that they're all looking for more and more money, I don't know. But I've had a fun time reading the reviews on here, as some of them have been very funny and made me laugh out loud. Glad to see I'm not alone, but sorry about it too. Thanks.