I have decided that ALL websites demanding payment to answer email are just scams. They allow YOU to initiate contact with a person that may or may not be real with a wink or whatever, then when you get a reply you have to be a paying member or they have to be a paying member to do more than wink back. I'm not against websites being paid, but its better they get it from advertising. Match.com uses advertising and memberships to pay for the website. Matchmaker was once the best website, though still not great for men, because you had 30 free emails for 2 weeks. Many people decided to stay and paid for memberships. When the free emails kept getting cut back until there were no more, the website mostly died. However, enough loser males will pay for a memebrship to molest women that don't want their sorry ass that maybe the website makes even more money. IT'S ABOUT MAKING MONEY, NOT FINDING LOVE, from the viewpoint of the website owners. They learned from Friend Finder how to tie things into porn sites and whatever. Adult Friend Finder and Alt Friend Finder are even bigger scams. I think Match.com is big enough to be above board on porn sites and fake profiles to bait the loser males into buying memberships, but the smaller websites aren't like that and try to make money any way possible. eHarmony has bugs in the matching and referral system, but they are large. Match.com is the largest by far. Yahoo may be able to suck off other resources to give both of them some competition, but I doubt it would be worth the expenditure now that competition is everywhere these days. LavaLife is a "credit scam" that is a joke to join, and few people do. uDate is the old failed Kiss.com that always sucked. All the rest, including this one, are too small to work even if they were great. DatingDirect and possibly Match.com are the only two worth mentioning for the UK. Matchmaker might make a go of it if they went back to a TRULY free trial period to get in a lot of females. Women DO NOT pay for memberships if they can help it, JUST LIKE IN REAL LIFE. They want the guys to pay for everything. If you're gonna pay for a membership, Match.com gives you more members for the money, and that's what counts. Try them first if you're going to pay, because if you are not successful there, it is highly unlikely you will be successful anywhere. They have twice as many matches than anybody else because they have twice as many members as anywhere else. Before paying for any membership, do a search to see who has the most ACTIVE members, then use that website. That website will probably be Match.com, so this website, like most others, aren't even in the running. You will get about as many members on Match.com as the next 3 websites put together. LavaLife had 4 total members with a photo in the local area in my age group! And they were NOT active members. I hear that LavaLife is Canadian, so maybe it's better there. Match.com and eHarmony are cleaning up, along with DatingDirect in the UK. Match.com is the only online website that is TRULY international with a large member base. The problem is that you must have a SEPARATE membership for each national area. Not like the old days when a single membership worked everywhere. Matchmaker is now a walking vampire whose soul was lost and with little substance that sucks blood money off of loser males. American Singles never got large enough to be a consideration. In America, I believe that when you try Match.com and eHarmony, you have tried the only two that hold any promise. Not that I would buy a membership, however. There are 2 males for every female, sometimes more, in the online world. In the offline world, that is NOT the case. Women should go online, and men should go offline, under present conditions. However, they are doing just the opposite, so it pays to go against the flow to be successful, as always.